Tavris

1) What perspectives does Tavris present that are different from those of Richard Cohen? What ideas in her essay are similar to those in his?

Tarvis is defending men saying that womens realtionships are just shallow and dont really mean anything. Cohen is saying how men cant have real friends and how women are correct in their views on friendships. both essays compare men and women's friendships.

2)In your own words, paraphrase both Cohen's and Tavris's definitions of friendship. Then, write your deffinition of friendship, in which you explicitly agree or disagree with the ideas of Cohen and/or Tavris.

Cohen says that friend ship is based on what each person tells one another. and how comfortable they are expressing their emotions with one another. Tavris is defending men saying how they are based on expierience not just talking. she sees womens friendships together more as shallow and sell them out as soon as something cute walks by. I Really agree with the fact that men do not share their feelings, very easily. it takes a bit to get it out of them and i dont think men are really that interested in each other enough to want to drag it out of them. women seem to feel that if somehting is off it must be fixed imeadately. a woman hates to have anything wrong. she will bug a man till he breaks and spills the beans on whats going on. Some women will sell out their best friends for a guy but that is not all women nor will all men keep every thing bottled up. I had to make a choice once between my friend and a guy i picked the guy and me and my friend did not talk for a year and ahalf. but then we reconnected and now all is good and i have both my friend and my boyfriend

3) How does Tavris suggest classifying peple as either "mature" or "immature"? Why does she make this distinction? What other characteristics would you say define someone (male or female) as "mature" or "immature"?

She says that one cannot judge if someone is mature or immature because there might be a different side to the story, it is not fair to judge someone else on if they are mature or not on what you belive to be mature because to someone else you might look just as immature. Maturity is more something that is present when it needs to be it is fun to be immature because look at little children they get to run around and be immature and then boom they are told to grow up and become mature. how that works i am not sure. noone can judge if someone else is immature or not becuase chances are they are not any more mature then the one they judge.